Owning The Narrative

This week I learned of unexpected changes in my day job. My team and I were blindsided with some tough news and I am not happy about how it was handled. I have been reeling with all kinds of emotions.

Grief and how we deal with it comes in many different forms. Grief is not just about dealing with death. It can be the loss of a job or a friendship; it can be a big move or going through divorce. It can also relate to realising the need for setting some boundaries; realising that someone or an institution that you respected has disappointed you.

Any time we lose someone or something important it can bring forth a lot of difficult emotions. Change can be very uncomfortable, but it is an inevitable fact of life. It is important to feel your way through all of the emotions that come in the midst of emotional transitions. Wallowing is part of the journey. And when you are ready (and your readiness is key) you can move to reflection and then action - choosing how you want to respond.

It is important to note that all of this can happen simultaneously. It lends to the idea "of Both/And". You can be BOTH angry AND be reflective. You can hold both pain and trust - trust that good can come from the pain. It doesn't mean the journey is easy, but you can always control your attitude.

By tapping in to your own values and your heart center - really taking time to listen to what you desire and need - will ensure that you are making choices from a place of integrity and self-care. You must be able to advocate for yourself even when times are hard. Remember that you own the narrative of your life and you can choose to write a better story.